Asking for Help
We seek help from others everyday. We need help with the printer, we can’t reach something from the top of a supermarket shelf, we don’t understand how to use the new smartphone we bought. So why is it that we shy away from asking for help with organizing our homes, creating an effective filing system at work, or managing our time to better accomplish all that is expected of us throughout the day? Our world has become one in which we simply must rely on others everyday. We no longer grow our own food, we don’t make our own clothing, or build our own homes. Everything is specialized and everything we do is connected. Organizing is no different and shouldn’t feel that way. So why does it? I’m not sure how it ended up that way, but it sure does feel like there is a lot of pressure on us to be perfect and live seamless, organized lives. I have a few guesses as to why people may shy away from asking for help:
You will feel vulnerable – Inviting someone into your home is scary. This is even more true for people who feel that their space doesn’t reflect the life they want to be living. The Unknown – We tend to feel more comfortable with the ‘known’, even if we don’t particularly like it. Unknown things are scary and generally best avoided. At least we think so. Shame – We see people everyday that appear to ‘have it all together’ and think that we should, too. We don’t tend to stop and think about what may be going on behind the scenes of other people’s lives. We also too often forget that asking for help is incredibly brave. Perfectionism – We expect too much from ourselves and don’t give ourselves the permission to do things just good enough. Often times, if we anticipate not being able to do a task perfectly, we simply avoid it all together.
All of these reasons we come up with not to reach out to others when we find ourselves needing support. But still, somewhere in the back of our minds, we must know that people were meant to rely on each other. How often do we hear phrases such as “No Man Is An Island”, “It Takes A Village”, and “United We Stand”. You are not alone, no matter how isolated you may feel in your situation. So I challenge you to be brave. To give yourself permission to ask for help. In the end, you’ll be glad you did.